Virginia Satir, Ph.D.


1. I do not have to feel guilty just because someone else does not like what I do, say, think, or feel.
2. It is O. K. for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways.
3. I do not have to assume full responsibility for making decisions, particularly where others share responsibility for making the decision.
4. I have the right to say, "I don't know."
5. I have the right to say "No," without feeling guilty.
6. I have the right to say "I don't understand," without feeling stupid.
7. I do not have to apologize or give reasons when I say "No."
8. I have the right to ask others to do things for me.
9. I have the right to refuse requests which others make of me.
l0. I have the right to tell others when I think they are manipulating, conning or treating me unfairly.
l1. I have the right to refuse additional responsibilities without feeling guilty.
l2. I have the right to tell others when their behavior annoys me.
l3. I do not have to compromise my personal integrity.
l4. I have the right to make mistakes and to be responsible for them; I have the right to be wrong.
l5. I do not have to be liked, admired, or respected by everyone for everything I do.

EVELYN I. CHALLIS, Ph.D.© 2020